This is something I've always thought about and struggled with. As early as I can remember I've always said that I never wanted to get married and if I ever did, it would probably be the most unconventional thing ever lol
As a young girl marriage is pushed onto you as something you should aspire to. You go to school, get a degree, get a job, find a man, get married and have children. Then be with that one person until you DIE🥴
Well, at-least for me that was the case. Having a guy in your life is something you should have at a certain age. And if you don't have it, you'll probably be lonely. That's bullshit to me...
I love being alone, its scary how much I love my own company lol just give me some food and music and I'll be great!
I'm still not sure that I want to subscribe to that marriage subscription...
The past couple of years I have been trying to dissect the constructs of marriage and decide if it is something that I actually want. I feel like everyone should have this conversation with themselves. You should always know if you actually want something before you go looking for it or want to accept it into your life.
You see it everyday, a lot of people rush into marriage not truly knowing who they're or what they want and get lost in a relationship they never wanted or shouldn't of been in.
A lot of people get into relationships hoping to change people and the change never happens, so they're unhappy.
Going back to people not knowing who they are, so they accept anything to say they have a "relationship". How can you truly be in a good relationship if you don't know what you want?
I also see a lot of women push away signs that are in their face and end up getting hurt or just being unhappy.
There are also people who never wanted to be married, who get married and it's a constant look for something else.
I always say, maybe if I meet a guy who comes along and changes my outlook on my dating views I might have a different mindset. But, as of right now I'll continue my dissecting of marriage lol
I'm also still struggling with if I'm being too much of a stickler with the qualities of a guy that I want. Some people think I am but I think I should have a lot of what I want and I don't want to compromise.*laughs in Eartha Kitt*
And I haven't been hurt by anyone, these are just my thoughts from observations and things that annoy me lol
So, I go back to my title question, Is marriage something you really want or are we trained to want it?
Ask yourself this question and really think about it before you answer. If your answer is yes, then your next question should be why do you want it? If your answer is no then you should still ask why not? If you're unsure then you're like me and we're still figuring this shit out.